Shot at Love....

"does anyone watch the show Shot At Love With Tila Tequilla?"

Yep.

"i've heard a few "reviews" from friends though: some think it puts bisexuals in a poor light by making us look like wild and crazy unstable punk ass sluts (and perhaps some of us are......so what, right?). they say is also makes things way too black and white, and real sexuality of any kind is fluid and in shades of gray. i agree with this."

l agree with the last part, and that it is too black and white. l don't think it necessarily puts us in poor light, but there's a prevailing 'she can't decide which she likes better and is confused' theme, and l don't think an honest bisexual is going to pick one and stick with it. l also don't agree with the fact that she got a bunch of lesbians (who are notorious for having challenging and competitive relationships when dating bis). l don't think it was fair to the women, because she originally led them to believe she was gay. l think she should have brought in a bunch of BI women, who understand her predicament. But then, maybe there wouldn't be all the drama, which every reality show clearly thrives on. Obviously, the men, while dealing with some competitive feelings, weren't near as put out by the idea of dating a bi woman, so l think they're better off. Even though l like Tila based on what l've seen of her, l don't respect the lack of honesty with the lesbians of the group.

"some of my friends however, say that its a great show because at least it puts bisexuality in the mainstream where it can be discussed and hopefully flourish. They also say that it shows that a bisexual person can commit, and it's not all about sex. i tend to agree with this too...."

That's the main reason l like it. l think bisexuals DO need a little more recognition, and l think it's good that this IS a show where she's looking to commit to *someone* despite the challenge of liking both genders. l guess l just wish that it didn't have the requisite stupid drama that accompanies every reality show, and ends up distorting the purpose, the participants, and the end results.

"but, it's not so simple.......right? if nothing else, it's an interesting show. "

lt certainly is interesting, and it's interesting to see the gender-war challenges, and where the men and women excel or get out of their comfort zone in ways you wouldn't expect. But again, it's a reality show. lt's NEVER what they're portraying, and there's ALWAYS some very creative editing required to keep the ratings up.

I must admit I am a closet reality show junkie, and was delighted to see how this would all pan out. As a bisexual the concept is interesting, and it gets some of our issues out there. Of course it is a reality show and we only watch for the drama and train wrecks, lets face it.

Overall I am pleased with the show, and surprized that more lesbians didn't walk off in protest - that was a shock to me.

I too have to say that I am usually into lipstick bi/lesbians myself, but find myself attracted to Dani. I guess we never can put our likes and dislikes into just one box as it does limit us. Opens my eyes to other possibilities I guess, fascinating.

My prediction: Dani and Bobby make it to the end. The others are just not a good fit if you ak me. Personally I am an not sure who I'd prefer to win at this point - maybe that is true to MY bi side. LOL

~Jodie~

All I know is the capsule description on the cable program guide thingie. My take from that was that this was another silly "reality" show like "The Real World" and "Big Brother." The only one of those that I like is "Drawn Together," 'cause it is a funny and dirty parody.

But now, damn all of you, I'm going to have to tune in! ;-)

I think the show's rather unfair.

Tila's a bisexual, but nobody else on the show is (or if they are, they're hiding it pretty well). So it necessarily invites conflict, because the girls and the guys *feel* that have no way to compete with each other.

If it was real life, Tila, looking for love, would just look for some fun bi friends who are capable of handling their jealously, and fall in love from there.

I imagine at the end of the show, she's sitting there with the winner like "Ok now what? That was a weird experience." The problem is that to take that experience and turn it into an actual relationship, I don't really buy that it's doable. They may have sex, but I imagine in a few months she'll be off looking for someone else and have broken the heart of whomever vied for her and won.

Do you all see the Iliano wear ad with the girl with the green outfit and blue hair? Man she's cute. I loves me some nutty creative 25ish girls. ;-)

OK, I gave it 15 minutes. Saw the chocolate competition, got to check out the cute baby butch.

Maybe if Dani and Tila and the Italian dude all came over and did a chocolate-covered lapdance on me, I'd watch it enough to actually get into it and care about the characters. But I'm afraid there's just not enough there to hold my interest.

PS: there's a lot about Tila and the show on Wikipedia.

I heard Keith Olberman talking about this this evening:

EAST BREMERTON

A 19-year-old Chehalis man who reportedly punched a police officer in the face multiple times Tuesday did so because "Tila Tequila would not respond to his e-mail" and because the officer took the man's nunchaku, according to Bremerton police reports.

Officers were called to a Perry Avenue shopping center shortly after 5 p.m. for a report of shoplifters at a grocery store, reports said. Two men, the 19-year-old and an 18-year-old Mossyrock man, had apparently stuffed items into their clothes but then put them back on the shelves, reports said.

The store's manager and the police still wanted to talk to the pair. After a search of their car, which the 18-year-old consented to, the officer found a nunchaku weapon, which he confiscated as a dangerous weapon.

The 19-year-old, after being patted down by the officer, turned around and punched him in the face, reports said. He and another officer pursued the man on foot, and when they caught up to the man, he punched the same officer again, breaking his glasses, reports said.

The officer delivered several "palm" and "knee strikes" to the 19-year-old's "facial area" before another officer could apply his Taser and place the man into handcuffs.

Both the 19-year-old and officer were treated for injuries.

While driving the man to jail, the officer asked the man why he was mad. The man replied that the MTV reality show star wouldn't reply to his e-mail and that the officer took his nunchaku, reports said.

The man was booked into the Kitsap County jail on suspicion of assault of an officer and possession of a dangerous weapon. His bail was set at $100,000.


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Olberman's comment: "If you've seen this show, you'll know that the cops should have taken away his TV set, too."