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Blk Muscle for NON, Hairy or Smooth.. Bigger...

2009-12-22T22:30:44Z

South FL or outside is fine too. Bi guy here for BBW or BHM or both, or...

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The way others view us vs. how we view ourselves

2009-12-09T11:47:17Z

I've found that straight women view me as a slut for being bi. And straight and gay men usually view me as in the closet! But I see myself as a rich, balanced personality who can appreciate so much more of the Universe than either gays or straights can. Like listening in stereo rather than monaural (sp?)

How about you?

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An odd situation

2009-11-23T06:18:01Z

I separated from my wife one year ago, and she moved to another time zone. Before she left, I had struck up a good friendship with a woman at work. But we were just that - friends, who could talk about anything. Unlike my wife, who was 39, this woman was my age, 49. And we would talk about where we were, approaching 50. I told her I was bi and described experiences I'd had with both sexes. She was (and remains) bi-curious. She said that, if she ever had sex with another woman, she would want it to be with someone her own age, someone who would not "rip my virginity from me." I suggested a woman I know but nothing ever came of it.

And she would not have sex with me! She said that she could see the two of us having something more than a sexual relationship, and she didn't want to jeopardize it by starting something while my wife and I were yet un-divorced - very wise, don't you think? So we have remained friends: we talk, eat, skinny-dip. But we have not so much as kissed.

About two weeks ago, she had sex with a different kind of man, what I describe as a "man's man." Tough, beefy, dominant - just about the opposite of me. This, I have always known, is her type of guy physically. I had resigned myself to the thought that she and I would never have a physical relationship, and decided to just be happy for her - this WAS the first satisfying encounter she had had in over a year. So I have encouraged her to keep at it.

This, finally, brings me to my problem: she told me that, now that she has "broken the ice," she'd consider having sex with me as well. My wife and I are in the final stages of our divorce, and my friend isn't looking for anything from her dominant lover past the bedroom door. Yet I hesitate to pursue this - why?

Ask questions, and I'll answer them - my own thoughts are so confused, I can't seem to work this out on my own.

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Oral sex - don'ts!

2009-11-21T08:04:07Z

If I'm giving you a blowjob, DON'T hold my head and thrust into my mouth like it's a pussy or ass. I become an inactive participant, and YOU are gonna get bit, or worse!

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How is it...

2009-11-15T20:59:14Z

that I can easily tell most of my new friends, most of my close friends, all of my lovers and even strangers on the internets that I am bisexual, but I can not tell my closest friend of over 20 years? I know the longer I wait the harder it will become and more it feels like I'm lying about part of who I am.

My thoughts on it... She was unsupportive of me and my husband's decision to become poly and was very hurtful to me. That would kind of explain it, but she's come around since then and we've healed the friendship. Even still, why have I chosen not to tell her over the past decade since I have accepted the fact that I like women? I have never told her of my experiences with women, yet I tell her all about the men.

I've given this a lot of thought over the past few months. Two nights ago I came out to another good friend and it went really great. I just realized how easy it had been to reveal it lately. Yet when I think about telling my closest friend I have this feeling of dread at the pit of my stomach.

Part of me thinks it's because she might weird out about it, but she's fine with mutual friends of ours who are gay and bi.

Has anyone else felt this way? Have you finally come out to the person? How did it go? I feel like I need to do it soon, I'm worried now that I'm so out there, she might accidentally find out from someone else and feel hurt or lied to all these years. Oh and no, I've never been attracted to her, not even a little bit.

Any insight would be really appreciated. Thanks! =D

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Bi Poly folks wanted for documentary/reality TV show

2009-11-12T14:03:32Z

Hello all,

This is Roman and Antje. We have been involved in the poly way of life since our teens. We both lived in a polyamorous intentional community promoting sacred sexuality for 14 and 8 years respectively and have been wanting to create a new poly community ever since.

We believe that loving more than one person is one of the most beautiful things there is. Therefore, we are committed to bring the poly message out in the world. We are currently working on a documentary/film/reality TV show about a poly tribe sailing the world in search of an uninhabited tropical island. Once on the island, we envision a larger group of 25 poly people working together towards self-sufficiency and sustainable living, all of which will be caught on film.

We are currently looking for adventurous participants who are genuinely interested in living in a poly tribe and becoming part of this big project.

Please go to www.theparadisebuilders.org for more detailed information. Also, feel free to ask any questions you may have about us and the project.

Much love to all,
Roman and Antje

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M4M Oral in California!

2009-11-09T16:54:50Z

http://oralcockworship.blogspot.com

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Bi F's - Do you prefer Bi Men?

2009-11-06T20:23:58Z

Would you prefer to date a BI guy or a Str8 guy?
And why?

Thanks for your feedback

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New member in the San Diego area.

2009-08-25T05:29:24Z

Just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Lester, and I am a straight man in a committed relationship with a bi-curious girlfriend. Already this year, we have satisfied her long time fantasy of having two men at once. We still do that on a regular basis, and she loves it. But we want to explore her other side. I would love to see her and another woman together.

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Facials

2009-08-19T04:23:19Z

As a teen, my favorite part of porn was cumshots on faces, or facials. So slutty, so right.

Once upon a time while masturbating, I threw my legs back over my head (sorta) and shot a load onto my own face,then ran to the bathroom to see my face smeared with cum. God, that made my knees go limp!

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Start a group in LA

2009-07-22T15:56:58Z

Would love to start a bi group who meets up at at motel once a month in LA...all safe, sane and discreet wearing masks, could be hot.

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Recently joined Tribe. Just saying hello

2009-04-07T18:54:56Z

EOM

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Natasha Richardson - out Bisexual

2009-04-05T06:30:54Z

from the Examiner:

She may not be a household name, but she was an actress surrounded by
bisexuals!!! And, she was never afraid to use the B-word in quotes...

read my story:

http://www.examiner.com/x-3366-Bisexuality-Examiner~y2009m3d19-Natasha-Richard
son-helped-people-understand-bisexuality

or here if the link above doesn't work:

http://www.examiner.com/x-3366-Bisexuality-Examiner

and also I write about Why are straight men afraid to say, 'I Love You, Man'?
—review & commentary

on the site:
http://www.examiner.com/x-3366-Bisexuality-Examiner~y2009m3d18-Why-are-straight-men-afraid-to-say-I-Love-You-Man-review--commentary

It's a pretty funny movie!

-m

Don't hesitate to spread the good word about Natasha, and for more info,
subscribe to my column on examiner, at
http://www.examiner.com/x-3366-Bisexuality-Examiner

Mike Szymanski
Entertainment Writer & Critic

Also: http://www.examiner.com/x-3366-Bisexuality-Examiner

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Do openly bisexual Black men really exist?

2009-02-25T19:53:02Z

I'm only interested in openly bisexual Black men as partners. I'm not attracted to bi men who are DL, the ones who can't admit that they are physically or emotionally attracted to other men. I'm not looking for a super freaky threesome either. The last reason I'm looking for a bisexual man is sexual. I'm interested in openly bisexual Black men for many reasons, primarily because I'm attracted to men who have let go of absurd notions of gender and sexuality. I’m interested in bisexual men who can acknowledge that their manhood and masculinity aren't defined by how they experience pleasure. I'm only attracted to men who can distance themselves from the misogynist, patriarchal, sexist, oppressive notions of what it is to be man and how society tells men to relate to women. Men who have redefined their notions of top and bottom and see themselves as sexual beings without labels arouse me. I'm attracted to bisexual men for a host of socio-political reasons but I can't seem to find a bisexual man who is interested in forming a relationship with me. They either prefer men or they find some excuse to display knee jerk homophobia in front of other people. I desire an openly bisexual man. That doesn't mean that he has to wear a t-shirt in public saying "I like Dick," but he at least has to speak up when people say antiquated, homophobic comments. He can't pretend to be straight around people and then only admit his sexual attraction to men behind closed doors. We are so distorted and warped as a people; our sexuality is so unhealthy and dysfunctional that I'm beginning to think that openly bisexual men don't exist.

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Guys to play with, I think is fun

2009-01-31T05:11:37Z

Women, these men are required to do what you demand. You pick and choose,

Just one suggestion. Tied-up and a blindfold and pretending another person might be coming to double-team his body always drives the guys over the edge for me. A little pause in time by himself is a cool build of hot anticipation. But they always like being tied up naked. They’re well trained like that. Read the rules of the groups, they must do what you say.

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BI-MARRIED SUBCOCKSUCKER CENTRAL CALIF AREA CODE 559 READY/ DAILY

2009-01-02T06:04:24Z

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RESOLVE EMOTIONAL CONTRETEMPS FROM BI-POLY LOVE-INS by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

2009-01-02T05:11:58Z

RESOLVE EMOTIONAL CONTRETEMPS FROM BI-POLY LOVE-INS by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

I’m reading an advanced copy of “Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet”, by Serena Anderlini, who was one of our keynoters at the 2007 World Polyamory Association Harbin Polyamory Conference. I’m in awe.

Serena’s new book’s is a polemic that can shake the world into loving survival, and I’ll have lots more to say about it in future posts. Right now, I abridge a couple of paragraphs to give you a feel for this stirring manifesto:

“Bi and poly ogies are emotionally connecting orgies: orgies of oxytocin where a symbiotic energy prevails; where the spasm of turgidity dissolves in ecstatic duration....The combined practice of bi and poly love empowers individual players to consciously navigate its flow and become consensually immersed in the movement of the symbiotic energy generated by our aural, astral and physical bodies at play.

“When both bi and poly paradigms function together in the orgy flow, No one has control over what develops, yet all trust that it will not destroy what is already in place; no one presumes exclusivity, yet all are aware of possible temporary exclusions ensuing from developing bonds and relationships....Emotions become manifest as sexual and erotic play.

“The correspondence between the emotional and erotic realms enables players to maximize the love energy they share.... and enable the creation of networks of emotional sustainability that result in symbiotic plateaus of enhanced awareness. These plateaus involve crises that manifest at certain points in the network whose collective management can productively turn them into opportunities for deeper levels of symbiosis [and] move the entire network on a higher level of awareness that enables more focused and productive experiments in the management of shared emotional resources ...The network unctions like a sustainable ecosystem for all these interpersonal energies. It creates sustainablity, balance and of resources for all involved.”

The success of poly orgies–we call them love-ins–as growth machines depends upon successful management of the emotions evoked in the flow of the sexualloving. What we in the Lessin Pod use as our management paradigm after our love-ins is a gestalt/centering encounter the next morning. Each participant takes a turn expressing unfinished emotional business, appreciations, learning from the love-in.

Any unfinished encounters are completed using Voice Dialogue bonding resolution below.

I tell each person with unresolved emotions from the love-in to take a turn and tell them:

Let where you’re sitting be the position for your Center, where you hear all your inner voices.

Recall, then tell me when you felt pain, fear, insecurity as we related to [I name the other person involved in the unresolved emotional situation].

Say how you and s/he interacted in parent/child ways.

What bothered you about how s/he acted in relation to you?

Move to a cushion from which you'll roleplay him/her. Pretend you're him/her.; roleplay him/her.. Exaggerate what s/he said or did. Say what you, as him/her, fear, think and suspect.

Now move to a cushion where you'll be yourself in relation to him/her.

Respond to me as yourself again and say more than you already said to him/her; say how you feel toward him/her. Express your feelings, irrational thoughts and impulses; exaggerate your feelings; express more.

Now return to your original cushion, the Center.

[When the person moves, say,] Say what vulnerabilities--feelings of insecurity, fear, hurt--you and s/he activate in each other.

How does he/she represent a disowned voice for you?

Describe your relation with him/her in parent-child terms. Expand what you said before about how you and s/he shift between enacting parent and child roles vis-a-vis each other.

In what ways does the pattern you've described with him/her re-create part of the pattern you had with the people who raised you or a brother or sister?

Stand behind me now, facing the seat in which you enacted voice within you that you projected on him/her. Maintain neutrality; observe objectively. As I review the main things you said in the disowned voice, sense its energy ### [I Summarize what person said.]

Now return from standing in the Witness position to the seat for your Center.

How can you, Center, nourish your vulnerable, Inner Child without stifling your other voices?

How can you integrate the disowned voices the other person represented into your life?

PLEASE SHARE ON THIS SITE HOW DO YOU CONDUCT YOUR SEXUALLOVING SESSIONS & WHAT DO YOU DO TO RESOLVE EMOTIONALLY UNFINISHED ISSUES THAT CAME UP DURING YOUR LOVING

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Our Heterosexual Problem (wink)Heterosexual Matrix Programming: Proposition 1984 by Suzie Day

2008-12-27T20:21:14Z

Our Heterosexual Problem (*wink*)Heterosexual Matrix Programming: Proposition 1984 by Suzie Day

Look at your paycheck. Did your company take
out again for Iraqi quagmire-maintenance? Now,
look around. Is the crime rate going up in your
neighborhood? Do you suspect your nifty new
iPhone is tracking your every move? Are you
worried that the economic meltdown will leave
you homeless, starving, and naked in the streets?
Perhaps you are already homeless, starving, and
naked in the streets with your new iPhone?
Would you agree there is a Problem?

You know what the Problem is, don't you?
Heterosexuals. I have evidence.

Everywhere you go – there they are.
Walking. Talking. Eating. Buying things.
Going to the "Men" or the "Ladies" room.

Not that there's anything wrong with
that sort of thing. We all have our repulsive
little quirks, I suppose. Some of my best
friends are straight: "heavy in the loafer";
"friends of Britney," if you will. We admire
these people for their sports stadiums;
their automated tollbooths; that slaphappy
sit-com humor that has allowed Heterosexuals
to survive centuries of hardship. But there
are limits.

Marriage, for instance. Show me where in
the Bible it says that two people of opposing
genders, by becoming legally wed, should be
able to get Social Security, Food Stamps,
and Income Tax benefits.

Shocking? Yes! SIMPLY BY GETTING MARRIED,
Heterosexuals derive some 1,400 entitlements
– approximately 1,000 federal and 400 state
– FEW OF WHICH CAN BE OBTAINED OUTSIDE
THE BONDS OF LEGAL MATRIMONY! Imagine
Heterosexuals being allowed to visit spouses
in hospitals; claiming joint privileges to adopt
and raise children; gaining immigrant residency
status; obtaining bereavement or sick leave.

Disgusting!

AND THAT'S WHY WE'RE IN THE MESS WE'RE
IN TODAY!

These "special rights" invoked by
connubially-wedded Heterosexuals
have upset the natural order of things.
They are against God's Plan for Us.
Hark: you can almost hear God retching.

I admit they had me fooled for a while.
At first, Heterosexuals appeared to be
just another harmless identity group.
They stayed in their place. We tolerated
them. Heck, weren't we all "just people"?

Then I got up the nerve to enroll in the
School of American Ballet. My application
was turned down: they wanted someone
whose posture was a little "straighter."
The economy started to tank and several
of my friends were "laid" off their jobs.
A nuclear family moved into our neighborhood
– and rents skyrocketed.

So I began to look around. I realized that
what I had been watching was part of a
carefully orchestrated plan. "They teach
god-knows-what filth in our schools," I
thought, "inherit each other's estates,
get conjugal visits in prison – and there's
nothing we can do about it."

Or was there? I got some facts.
Did you know that:

*Heterosexuals comprise at least
90% of the population?

*That this "population" is teeming
with huge numbers of muggers,
pickpockets, corporate polluters,
slumlords, child pornographers, and
fascist dictators?

*It therefore follows that at least
90% of all muggers, pickpockets,
corporate polluters, slumlords,
child pornographers, and fascist
dictators are … HETEROSEXUALS!!!

WHY ARE THESE DEVIANTS ALLOWED
TO MARRY EACH OTHER? DON'T THEY
HAVE ENOUGH RIGHTS?

I have begun an anthropomorphic study
of Heterosexuals. Oh, they start off
innocently enough. As babies, Heterosexuals
are often quite cute. Many of them,
however, cry all night and drool a lot –
the first signs that something is not right.

As Heterosexuals grow older, they watch
TV for hours – depraved programs such as
"Family Guy" or "MASH" reruns, designed to
implant the psychosexual desire ONLY for
others of the "opposite" sex. Then they go
outdoors to engage in shame-based playtime
activities such as "house" or "doctor." Soon,
all they can think of is buying nudity-promoting
hygiene products and getting a place of their
own, so they can procure other Heterosexuals
with whom to enjoy frequent and legal erotic
relations. Thus are they indoctrinated into
HETEROSEXUALITY'S MATRIMONIAL DOMINATION
OF THE ENTIRE GLOBE!!!

Accident? No! Through patient research, I have
uncovered a vast, international conspiracy of
Militant Heterosexuals who seek total worldwide
supremacy over Planet Earth! Their behavior is
being constantly monitored by their Militant
Heterosexual president, Big Breeder. "Big Breeder
Is Watching" is one of the mottos of the
Breederhood. Others include: (1) Freedom is
Marriage; (2) War Is Cute When It's Between
the Sexes; and (3) Ignorance Of And Alienation
From My Wondrously Protean, Polymorphous
Libido Is A Small Price To Pay For World
Domination.

Ignoring the problem won't make it go away.
So get righteous: Go up to each and every
Heterosexual you see on the street. Ask
them to think about the chaos in the Middle
East and the economic meltdown; about
domestic surveillance and starving in the
streets. Tell them THEY have caused
these problems.

Then get them to give you their paychecks.

Susie Day can be reached at: sday@skadden.com

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Review Your 2008

2008-12-27T19:10:28Z

Review Your 2008

REVIEW 2008 FROM A YOUR NEW YEARS TALK WITH YOUR MOST INTIMATE
PERSONS, AFTER THE BEST YEAR YOU COULD POSSIBLY HAVE
Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. sashalessinphd@aol.com

INSTRUCTIONS Read the sentences below aloud to your intimates.
Give them a few breaths' time to respond aloud where you see
asterisks (***). If they doesn't respond to a cue-sentence, pause
several breaths and read the cue again. If you get no response the
second time, read the next question. Take your turn, Reader, and answer the questions after your intimates do.

Lie down on your back, relax. Close your eyes. Take 5 nice
deep breaths.

Imagine 2008 passed in the highest, most loving, fulfilling,
growthful way.

Say how your dreams came true in 2008. ***

How did you actualize your TANTRIC, POLYAMOROUS & BISEXUAL NEEDS this year? ***

Say how, in `08, you lived right. ***

Say how you developed your talents.

What, in 2008, was fulfilling? ***

Tell how your relationships went in 2008, that made them so
good. ***

What FASCINATED you in 2008. ***

What have you CREATED? ***

Reflect, aloud on the TALENTS you've developed so far. ***

Summarize the philosophy and the PRINCIPLES you lived by
successfully so many years. ***

What GOALS did you reach? ***

Say how your CONSCIENCE guided you. ***

What COMMITMENTS led to your good outcomes. ***

If you could achieve ONE MORE THING in this life, what would
it be? ***

Tell your PLANS for the rest of your life. ***

Say anything else you'd like to your intimates. ***

Return to the present. Open your eyes.

SHARE THE HIGHLIGHTS OF YOUR 2008 ON THIS SITE!

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Philadelphia Area

2008-12-24T02:53:54Z

I'm looking to meet like-minded people so, anybody living in the Philadelphia area feel free to contact me at: severe3rd@yahoo.com to get acquainted.

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CULTIVATE THE CYCLE OF UPLIFTING COMMUNICATION by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

2008-10-28T14:32:35Z

CULTIVATE THE CYCLE OF UPLIFTING COMMUNICATION by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.
[Based on Hampton-Turner, C., 1981, Radical Man.]

Learn the cybernetic model. The cybernetic model of mutually-
enhancing communication between lovers is a feedback model. In this
model, honest communication improves relationships.

When you confront your lovers and take to heart what they
say, you help each other grow. You feel loved and make your choices
based on love. You accept, adore, cooperate and share more. The
more you share, the more you develop judgment, competence and
individuality and actively show these to your beloveds, who lovingly
yet honestly share reactions. Use this feedback to raise your
consciousness so you perceive with greater clarity, develop your
individuality further and make better choices.

Commit to lovers whom you accept, who lovingly challenge and
who enhance you.

Challenge is critical; in the heat of intense, authentic
emotional confrontation you give each other the feedback each of you
needs to understand how you affect each other, the feedback you need
to become a more loving person.

You risk your vulnerability with lovers you commit to–they
could reject or accept you and your growth. Stop seeing things only
your way and open to their opinions. Care about their development.

Learn from each other, cooperate, and make ever-more growth-
enhancing choices, based on the loving energy you share. Embrace the
cycle with lovers and raise your sophistication as you learn from
their experience and feedback. Your growth simultaneously
contributes to their growth. As you mature from their feedback, you
can give the greater love, acceptance, cooperation and feedback they
need.

You and they grow when you cultivate the cybernetic
communication cycle. You spiral up when you let each other go
separate directions. Care about each other's growth. Confront and
take to heart what you each say. Help each other grow. Feel loved
and make your choices based on love. Accept, adore, cooperate and
share more.

Develop judgment, competence and individuality and actively
show these to your lovers, who lovingly yet honestly shares
reactions. Use this feedback to raise your consciousness so you
perceive with greater clarity, develop your individuality further and
make better choices.

Your growth simultaneously contributes to theirs. As you
mature from thir feedback, you can give the greater love, acceptance,
cooperation and feedback they need. Each time you both complete a
cycle--choice, commitment, vulnerability, encouragement, synergistic
learning and use of each other's reactions--you raise your
consciousness.

In the exercises to follow, you and your beloveds experience
each of the steps in the communication cycle. You learn to choose,
see, feel and enjoy each other, assert yourselves, know you can
share. You commit and risk; let love affect each of you. You
celebrate your individuality, similarity and universality. Cooperate
and encourage each other to learn and grow by just completing the
sentences. All-in-all, the exercises and the communication cycle
teach you to use each other's views to better yourself and mutually
make more.

CHOOSE

To start the cycle, lover each say to each other:
"I love you."
"I want you as my lover."
"I'm glad I'm your beloved."
"I want a great relationship with you."
"I want mutually delightful sexual relations with
you."

SEE, FEEL, ENJOY

Sharpen your awareness lest you dull yourself. Understand and
value the other as contradictory, multi-faceted and complex. Tolerate
and sympathize; be reasonable and sensitive. Love while you see and
accept each other's flaws.

Seek to know each other, but avoid prying. Show respectful
regard for each other, neither indifference nor interrogation.

ASSERT

Share your changing opinions with your beloveds, even if it's
risky. The alternative is to say what you think the others want to
hear. The cost of that is they can relate only to your lies. Inside,
you feel unknown and unloved. And you torture yourself for lying.

KNOW YOU CAN SHARE

You can cheer your dears with words. Or do the opposite. Some
kind, gentle words cost you little and mean a lot.

COMMIT

Get involved with, care about and commit to your sweethearts.
Say what you see. Help your darlings grow. And grow up.

Say to each, "Beloved, I commit to your well-being and
growth." "I support you in your goals."

RISK: LET YOUR LOVE AFFECT YOU

Declare your ideas, especially about yourself. Let your
intimates influence what you think and do. Bend, adapt, and trust.
Weigh the risk of sharing against the return of more intimacy. Share
only when each of you both feel trust.

Finish this sentence with each other as many times as you can:
"You don't know I ..."

What do you dread divulging? Magnify your fear and finish

"I have secrets so bad that if you knew you'd ..."

If your lovers can cope with those, complete these:
"It's hardest to tell you..."
"I risk our relation by revealing ..."

CELEBRATE YOU'RE SINGULAR, SIMILAR & SAME

When you tell the truth, you and your lovers learn you're
different, similar and just alike. Singular, similar, and the same.
Delight in your differences. Similarities let you feel close. Your
sameness is your spiritual unity, the wholeness of parts joining.

Complete to each other:
"We vary in these ways ..."
"I enjoy these differences ..."
"I see us similar inasmuch as we each ..."
"I identify with you when ..."
"Our souls connect when ..."

GROW ENCOURAGING EACH OTHER

Find new meanings together. Reach out to help each other meet
needs. Encounter with care and mutual respect. Recognize you are each
equal to the other. When you help your darlings develop, you grow.
You flower when you tell your thoughts and express your emotions that
help the others mature.

Say to each, "Sweetheart, I think your strengths are ..."
(State some.)

Then switch. Your partners say their assessment of your
admirable attributes.

Say to each, "If you stimulate these strengths, five years
from now you'll ..." (Complete.)

LEARN FROM EACH OTHER

Understand and artfully affirm each other. Stop submitting.
Don't dominate. Learn from your lovers that you're more than you
think.

Complete with each other: "The most valuable thing for you to
know about yourself and how you affect me is ..."

COOPERATE

Tell each other, "Let's work together and both gain ..."

"Here's how to sexually satisfy me better..." (finish, show
them)

"How can I satisfy you better sexually?" Then do it.

USE YOUR DARLING'S VIEW FOR A BETTER YOU: INTEGRATE FEEDBACK

Mull your lovers' messages and you mature. Complete to each
other:
"When I first saw you, I thought ..."
"Now I see you as ..."
"You've made me aware that to you I seem ..."

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what do women need?

2008-09-27T22:32:19Z

I have a straight friend who is interested in setting up sacred tribal intimacy groups, much along the line of what I am trying to do with gay men, but he wishes to do this with women and men. It has been very easy for me to find men who are hungering to explore the interface of the spiritual and the sexual and have no difficulties getting naked and touching. My question is: "What do women need to feel that they could enter into an exploratory, sensual space with other women and men? It seems to be the terrain is entirely different for women. It may not be something that interests them at all.

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Hi

2008-08-18T05:17:52Z

Hi I am Kendra, I am a BI M2f TS, living in northern kentucky " 10 mins S of cincinnati OH" have been married 13 yrs now to the same man. However we are in a poly relationship, we do enjoy another female and male with us. Msg me if you would like to chat TY

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Not feeling it.

2008-06-11T06:14:43Z

For the past few months, I haven't been feeling very bi. I'm mostly straight to begin with and was very picky about the girls I thought were cute or was in other ways attracted to, but recently I haven't really been feeling it. It hit me when I realized that the other day I saw the first girl I thought was cute in a long time. I think I've gone through this before, though never in the other way by feeling mostly gay. Has this ever happened to you?

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A survey for bi/gay men.

2008-06-01T02:32:45Z

http://www.healthsolutions.org/research/5part/

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Bi Nature: Party in the East Bay for Bi Couples and Single Bi Ladies

2008-05-11T05:53:28Z

Hello Friends: Linda and I are hosting a small intimate party for bi couples and single ladies. The party will be in a small cabin located in a nature preserve that is not open to the public, so we will have absolute privacy. The party will start at 3:00 pm on Saturday, 24th. The party will be 420 friendly. Usual rules apply, no unprotected intercourse unless it is with your committed partner. We want friendly, down to earth, go with the flow people who are respectful of other people’s limits and comfort level. No pushy or rude people, or you will be asked to leave. Enjoy the nature surrounding you and enjoy the nature of the guests. Hope to see you there, so RSVP – ASA. Jose and Linda

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New BBW Adult Site!!!!!

2008-05-04T23:57:36Z

WWW.BBWHOLLYWOOD.COM

It just opened April 1, 2008. You all should check it out! Support the BBW!

A perk that you get if you subscribe to my album is that I take requests. (Not sure about what the other models offer) If there is something that you want to see me do (legal of course-no kids/animals) just ask and I will do it special just for you. I want to fulfill your fantasies! You can check out my profile for a clean sample of what I have to offer so far. Please email me when you subscribe I love to talk to my fans! Thanks for the support you are all beautiful people. :o* Sugar Shock, BBW

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HI EVERYONE! LOOOOVE me

2008-05-03T22:34:57Z

Hi friends, i'm new here. I just wanted to say hi and to make some friends so that my network grows! Much love to you all!

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east bay???

2008-04-02T19:05:18Z

just trying to get an idea of what's going on in the east bay for queers. i recently moved here from nyc and i other than a couple of clubs, i don't know what's going on. trying to meet some sweet and sexy guys for friendship, bootie, whatever. where y'all at?

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Pomosexuality and the Death of the Label

2008-03-25T22:14:49Z

BECAUSE LABELS ARE FOR CLOTHING... NOT PEOPLE.

Pomosexuality (short for postmodern sexuality) refers to a nonorientation in which people disregard sexual labels altogether. While it is convenient to sort everyone into a handful of different groups - homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual - pomosexuality argues that not only can these words and categories not do justice to the complexity of human sexuality, but are also grand illusions socially constructed to maintain a state of separateness between people. Like most other things in life, sexual orientation and/or gender identity isn't a black and white, either/or experience for many of us. More appropriately, it is best described as a fluid and incalculably unique journey that is beyond definition. Pomosexuality literally means anything you want it to mean. It means anything goes. And it represents an end to all the confusion, oppression, fear, and restraint that comes with trying to identify with a restrictive label.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXxODfmU_iU

Join the new social network that is introducing the concept of pomosexuality to the masses, revolutionizing the way the world views sexuality and gender. http://wWw.POMOWORLD.com

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Anyone from Missouri?

2008-03-23T22:03:59Z

I see that most of the events and communication here comes from the san Fran area. I would love to hear from someone in the Missouri area.

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Has anyone tried this site?

2008-03-20T16:08:24Z

This is not intended to be spam. I joined Bicupid awhile back but have never paid for a membership. Has anyone done so and if so, how did it work for them meeting other bi's? If anyone is on there or wants to join, connect to me k?

http://www.BiCupid.com/v/schirin

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Bisexuality has been a bit of a fashion statement in recent years.

2008-03-06T03:59:50Z

While most people are more open minded nowadays, bisexuals can still come under fire from both gay and straight people.

There's no denying that bisexuality has been a bit of a fashion statement in recent years. Let's face it, if you never go out with anyone of the same gender it won't really be questioned. But don't genuine bisexuals deserve a bit more respect than tags like “hetero-flexible” and “fence sitter” suggest?

Let's remember that the rainbow flag is supposed to be a symbol of diversity, we're not all gay and straight. If I went into my local gay club there would be a few dirty looks as I'm currently going out with someone of the opposite gender. Obviously, it's some sort of statement. It couldn't just be that I swing both ways.

There's a great deal of sexual and sexuality politics. For example, I've seen bi girls insisting they are gay and find men repulsive when they're going out with a girl. It seems some sections of the gay community are far happier to accept “properly” gay people that bisexuals. While I don't want to tar every gay person with the same brush, there are a number of people that think if you're bisexual you've just not decided yet.

Superficially, some would say bisexual people have it easier than gay people as they have the “option” of living a straight life. As if your sexuality is a lifestyle choice. It seems bizarre that a community that is generally so accepting still holds some prejudice. Why should I feel I have to apologies for not being “fully” gay?

Thankfully, many people are open minded and happy to accept you for who you are. Not every gay person is militant and believes you're letting the side down by going out with someone of the opposite gender. And many people acknowledge that sexuality can be fluid. A gay person may be attracted to someone of the opposite gender in the same way a straight person could find a spark with one particular person of the same sex. We are not just our sexuality, so let's start being inclusive and stop creating barriers.

Website: http://www.biloves.com

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Shot at Love....

2008-02-28T09:33:59Z

does anyone watch the show Shot At Love With Tila Tequilla? i've only watched a few episodes, so i don't really have much of an opinion yet....

i've heard a few "reviews" from friends though: some think it puts bisexuals in a poor light by making us look like wild and crazy unstable punk ass sluts (and perhaps some of us are......so what, right?). they say is also makes things way too black and white, and real sexuality of any kind is fluid and in shades of gray. i agree with this.

some of my friends however, say that its a great show because at least it puts bisexuality in the mainstream where it can be discussed and hopefully flourish. They also say that it shows that a bisexual person can commit, and it's not all about sex. i tend to agree with this too....

but, it's not so simple.......right? if nothing else, it's an interesting show.

i was curious about other opinions on the show. so lets discuss!! :)

*Karen~

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Tell us something we don't know....

2008-02-25T01:06:21Z

But we love seeing it in scientific study terms...finally!

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/01/080116080306.htm

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Biguys and Straight girls

2008-02-20T08:15:04Z

Ok, so I am a bisexual male... Attractive to boot... who has a "straight" girlfriend. Even though I entered this relationship in total honesty I have found myself trapped in a situation where a beautiful, honest, powerful woman is pouring her heart into my life... so long as I am devoted solely to her. While this is a great exchange because she is the catch of all catches... (in the straight world) I am left feeling like I am not being entirely truthful to myself. I would love to hear from other, self identified bisexuals who have any experience in this type of situation. I love my partner and see her for all of her glory and gifts.... Although I still feel like I am missing something of myself. This missing component is more about myself than about needing another lover.. but somehow it ties all together.

I know some other tried and true bi lovers here will have some insight. I feel like it's take 30 years to identify myself as open-minded enough to be comfortable loving either sex... but life and society have there own choke holds on the possibilities.

ADVICE?

Tanks,
-Soulself

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Being good and waiting......

2008-02-04T17:41:05Z

When I hear her talk and see the passion in her eyes, I get so excited.
When I see her walk, I just want to grab her and hold her.
When I feel her walk by me I take in her beauty.
I sit next to her, I want to run my hand up her leg.
I put my hand behind her on the chair and it take all I have not to run my hand thru her hair.
I hug her good night and I want so bad to reach up and kiss her.

But I wait. I wait until she is ready.

I will wait until she looks at me and says kiss me.

Damn it is hard......ugh but I don't want to loose her friendship.

Just been hard because it is has been 10 years since I have had a women in my life as a lover.

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Forgive the question But

2008-02-04T05:53:03Z

Are there any bisexual groups in Riverside County, CA?

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Poly Bi Boys tribe up and running

2008-01-28T16:14:55Z

(But you don't have to be Poly, Bi, or a Boy to join)

http://tribes.tribe.net/8d2ee601-a709-4982-8bd2-9b35aee60312

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Does being bi make it harder to find love?

2008-01-26T01:26:53Z

I am starting to think so. I'm terribly attracted to a certain "look" with a girl, and guys well, they just don't excite me really. They're always "too" something...too aggressive, too controlling, too stupid, too nuts, too pushy for sex...I just don't feel comfortable anymore. I've been burned too many times. So I kind of wander alone, which is ok on some levels because I like my alone time, but I wonder what will happen for me in my life as far as a partner. I've never attempted to "date" a girl mainly because I have only tried to be with bi girls before (frankly, we're all drawn to people who understand us) and that never works out because they're usually baby bi's...very insecure and freak out at anything resembling an actual relationship (sex + friendship...it's not that difficult people!). I dunno. I have sorta given up.

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being bisexual

2008-01-23T15:35:11Z

for any woman that is bisexual, how do u get treated from other bi or les girls? i am bisexual, i have always liked girls since i was 13; but have not found a real woman to have an actual relationship with. its so depressing though. girls i meet online think im doing this for a trend, im like why would i use homosexuality as an excuse to get laid? im not like that. im 21 and i still havent found any girl yet!!

i feel that i should be proud of who i am and shouldnt change my sexual orientation for anyone. my fiance knows i am bi and he accepts it. ladies, how do u juggle being in a relationship with a guy and girl? is it hard or simple like any other relationships? i always felt i was bi when i was 13 because i always checking out girls all the time. i feel when i tell girls that im bi and have a man, they feel the only way im gonna have a relationship with a woman is if drop him which is not gonna happen. i wish i can find a girl that i can have a relationship with...

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Mothers. Yeesh.

2008-01-17T21:00:31Z

I have been struggling for some time to find the right people to implement the business plans that my business partner and I have put together. The people, not the business plans, have sucked. It's been a struggle, but I have been unwilling to give up trying. Donald Trump the other day in an interview said that the key to success is never, ever giving up. I believe that, and have held onto my faith that one day it's going to turn around with the right people. It could be just a day, an hour away, and no one really knows the moment that change can overtake us. My mother, on the other hand, is pressuring me hard to stop. Her latest thing just now was to ask me if I'm "romantically involved" with my business partner (an older woman). I'm surprised she thinks so, would admit she thinks so, and it's very sick to think so. *sigh*

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New Tribe: Queers Serving Straight Men

2008-01-14T11:45:07Z

I figure there might be some guys here that are interested in the new tribe.

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Describe

2008-01-14T07:32:33Z

The last oral sex experience you had.

You know... to lighten things up.

Fun and profit?

-Sean

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Queers over 40 tribe

2008-01-11T20:12:42Z

Hey all , just wanted to put this out there.
I have a queers over 40 tribe. for me Its for men, women, trans etc.

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savage love

2008-01-10T13:28:36Z

since i havent seen it brought up before and this weeks article was interesting in and of itself - i thought id provide a link to the advice columnist dan savage. his column is called savage love. link - http://thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove

this week he admits that sometimes he just doesnt have an answer for some of the mail he receives - and thus they usually dont get published as letters. then he goes on to publish a bunch of letters and offers to let the audience provide solutions. if i were to pick one to try itd be the one about the gay couple where one finally went to get his MTF operation and the husband is weirded out now by his boobs... my advice would be that out of respect for your relationship you should try to see how it might continue to work - but to talk about your feelings right now and get into some TG support groups to discuss options. and yes, you were a hypocrite for saying youd love him "no matter what" because it is truly the rare individual that can followup on that promise for all values of "what" - even if they know beforehand what "what" might be.

anyways - dan savage is credited with coining the word santorum, popularizing the acronyms GGG and DTMFA, and ive enjoyed reading his column for years. he does not specialize in bisexuals, but he has talked about their issues on occassion - and since i had mentioned his column i couple times before i thought id bring up the link.

does anyone follow him like i do? usually agree with him? disagree? hugs, h.

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Homophobia

2008-01-05T11:30:12Z

So l was reading over my last response to Marquis in her Being Bisexual thread, regarding the level of homophobia gays deal with vs. bisexuals. Have you ever had any negative experiences relating to your bisexuality?

l've had two.

One was pretty quick and basic. l was at a club, hanging out with a group of friends and some other people we'd just met, and my best friend and l were drunk, and l gave her a quick peck, and then we had a really short makeout session. As in 'a little tongue, another couple of pecks' short. One of the girls gave us truly one of the most disgusted looks l've ever received from anyone, said something like "Gross", and excused herself. Everyone there sort of laughed and went 'prude' and carried on.

The second time, l had just shaved my head, so no matter how girlified l had made the haircut by leaving a few long curly strands here and there, or how much makeup l wore (and l never wear much at all), EVERYONE thought l was gay.....but nothing much really happened for the first few months, except maybe l had more lesbians hitting on me. One night l was out with my roommate, who - ironically - is a very feminine straight man. As we were leaving the bar, some drunken asshole started harassing him (he was wearing some bright red plaid pants, and not the punk rock type) so l jumped to his defense. l came damn close to getting myself into a fight with a man twice my size if it weren't for the bouncer, but the whole time he was hollering "You fucking dyke, nobody wants your dried up pussy" and shit like that. lt was pretty shocking, and THAT experience, even though he thought l was gay (and he was the type of stupid jock that would have likely changed his tune if l'd been making out with some chick there), really showed me what it must be like for the gay community on a regular basis. lt certainly upped my sympathy level about ten notches, that's for sure.

So what about you? And on this note, what *are* your thoughts on being bi, and therefore halfway homosexual, yet dealing with few or none of the harassment? Do you think that we deal with less homophobia, and why?

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Guy dates a bi woman and finds it hard

2008-01-02T08:00:35Z

Happened to come across this...

Dear Lynn,
I’ve been dating a bisexual woman recently. I’ll admit I was apprehensive because of trust issues, but now I’m fine with it. Well, recently she told me that she wanted to be intimate with another woman but at the same time she tells me that she’s in love with me. To me, when you are in love with someone, you want to be with that person and that person only. Well, she tells me it’s only sex, and that’s all it is. So I tell her that I want to be intimate with another woman also, and she says that it’s not the same because she’s with another woman, not another man. It would be like I’m being unfaithful. I’m sorry, but to me if you are in love with someone — man or woman — if you stray, you are being unfaithful. She tells me that I don’t understand anything about bisexuals. Maybe I don’t. Can you please shed some light on this?
– Easy Come, Easy Go

Dear Easy Come, Easy Go,
Nice try, lady. Crudely speaking, being bi means you sleep with both sexes. Being in a relationship means... not at the same time! What’s at play here is not the difference between being straight and bi; it’s the difference between being monogamous or not. No fair of her to try to blur the difference and exploit the meaning of her orientation in her favor. Some couples do have “open” relationships, but that’s when they both have straying privileges. She’s saying it’s OK for her to fool around but not you? That’s a double standard for sure. Sorry; she can’t have it both ways.

This is not to say don’t date bisexuals. Ultimately, it’s not even really about bisexuality; it’s about being fair and mature and respectful in a relationship. About setting expectations together. About, um, not cheating. (Although, to her credit, at least she told you of her intentions.)

And if you’re coming into this with “trust issues,” it’s best, moving forward, to try and date people — straight, bi, whatever — who don’t trigger them. Someone will come along for whom you are more than enough.

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any advice on coming out to your kids?

2007-12-31T01:13:42Z

especially if they are young adults? high school, college age or around there?

thanks!

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sigh....

2007-12-01T07:40:06Z

why is it when you find someone you have a connection with it will not work out the way would like.

i have this amazing women friend in my life.
she and i have this connection even though we have not known each other that long.

but alas, she is a lesbian and no poly and will only be friends with someone who is poly.

we flirt, we cuddle, we have amazing talks but nothing more.

it makes miss having a woman in my life so much that i can have that plus the sexual part.

sigh......maybe someday....we will see.

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Naughty Gifts for Naughty Adults

2007-11-27T00:52:06Z

WearablePorn.com

Naughty Gifts for Naughty Adults

Original fine art bondage & erotica t-shirts, posters, framed prints, greeting cards and more.

http://www.wearableporn.com

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Greetings and question

2007-11-22T05:06:52Z

jumping in here. Hope I don't splash too many people.

Does anyone have any suggestions for a BBW Bi-girl who wants to date other BBW women? I'm completely new and don't have a clue.

Blessings,
MG

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Sentened to death for alleged homosexuality

2007-11-19T11:15:29Z

I'm...speechless.

Iranian spared from execution
21-year-old had been scheduled to hang for ‘crimes’ committed at age 13

By Mike Stuckey
Senior news editor
MSNBC
updated 4:33 a.m. PT, Fri., Nov. 16, 2007

Amid international criticism ignited by a crusading journalist, Iran’s chief justice has spared the life of a young man who had been sentenced to be executed as the result of a cousin’s accusations of homosexual acts years earlier.

Ayatollah Seyed Mahmoud Hashemi Sharudi nullified the imminent death sentence of Makvan Mouloodzadeh, 21, for violations of Iranian law and Islamic teachings, Saeid Eghbali, the defendant’s attorney, told msnbc.com this week.

Had Sharudi not intervened, Mouloodzadeh would have joined hundreds of his fellow Iranians, some of them just children when they committed their alleged crimes, who are hanged each year in jail yards and public squares. The executions are often carried out via a method designed to enhance and prolong their suffering: A rope is placed around the condemned person’s neck and he or she is hoisted from the ground with an industrial crane.

“This is a stunning victory for human rights and a reminder of the power of global protest,” said Paula Ettelbrick, executive director of the New York-based International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission, which worked to draw attention to Mouloodzadeh’s case.

With overtones of homophobia, suspicions of political retaliation and a conviction based on activities that allegedly occurred eight years earlier, when Mouloodzadeh was just 13, his case captured the attention of a number of international groups that are trying to pressure Iran into improving human rights for women, gays and children.

The groups charge that Iran has increasingly used the death penalty for people convicted of crimes that occurred when they were children or teens.

“Iran leads the world in executing children,” Human Rights Watch said in a summer press release that charged the nation with putting to death at least 17 juvenile offenders since the beginning of 2004, “eight times more than in any other country in the world.”

By comparison, according to statistics compiled by Amnesty International, Sudan executed two juvenile offenders in the same time period, while China, Pakistan, Yemen, Afghanistan and Saudi Arabia executed one each. The United States last executed a person for crimes committed as a juvenile in 2003, but is second only to Iran in such killings since 1989, having put 19 juvenile offenders to death to Iran’s 24 in that 18-year period.

Mouloodzadeh’s case came to light through the reporting of Mitra Khalatbari, a 21-year-old journalist who works for a Tehran newspaper and publishes a Persian-language blog called “Scream of Silence.”

It is a stark reminder of the differences between Western justice systems and those of Islamic nations, which consider adultery and homosexuality to be capital crimes, mandate precise numbers of whip lashes for certain offenses, allow relatives of a murder victim to decide whether the killer is to be put to death or pay them blood money, and place a higher value on the lives of Muslim men than non-Muslims and women.

In a telephone interview with msnbc.com that was translated by Hossein Alizadeh, a spokesman for the gay and lesbian rights group, Khalatbari said Mouloodzadeh’s trial “took place behind closed doors” in June. Because of her reputation for previously covering such cases, she learned about Mouloodzadeh’s death sentence afterward from his uncle, who lives in Germany.

Through interviews with family members and others, Khalatbari learned that Mouloodzadeh, from Kermanshah province in the north of Iran, was arrested without warning in September of last year. Mouloodzadeh, who at first believed that he had violated prohibitions against smoking or something else during the holy month of Ramadan, had his head shaved and was paraded through town on a donkey, a state-sanctioned humiliation ritual.

Mouloodzadeh’s family was later informed that he had been accused of numerous acts of rape and sodomy, which allegedly occurred when he was 13. The allegations were made to authorities in a letter from Mouloodzadeh’s cousin.

Attorney: No victims until police rounded them up
“That was the statement, in that letter, that triggered the whole arrest,” said Eghbali, whose interview with msnbc.com also was translated by Alizadeh. Even with the letter, the attorney said, there were no alleged victims until the police went out, arrested some men and coerced them into saying that they had committed sodomy with Mouloodzadeh as youngsters.

Even though none of the men ever alleged that Mouloodzadeh raped them and all eventually recanted their stories that any sexual contact had occurred, a local magistrate used a legal maneuver called “knowledge of the judge” to find Mouloodzadeh guilty anyway and sentence him to death, a fate upheld by Iran’s Supreme Court, Eghbali said.

“This is a scandal, a judicial scandal, because they just decided on the basis of pretrial information to pass the sentence,” said Eghbali, who noted numerous other procedural errors in a 10-page appeal to Ayatollah Sharudi.

Although the Islamic Penal Code, which is the law of the land in Iran, mandates the death penalty for homosexual acts, it also establishes an elaborate procedure to prove such cases. “If you want to follow the letter of the law, it is next to impossible to sentence someone to death based upon sexual crimes,” Eghbali said.

The case simply didn’t add up to Eghbali, who would not comment on suspicions raised elsewhere that Mouloodzadeh may have been singled out because he had relatives who have opposed Iran’s rulers politically. “What I can tell you as a lawyer is that Makvan was not tried as an innocent person until proven guilty,” Eghbali said. “From the get-go, they decided to build a case around his personality and introduce him as someone who is nothing but trouble.”

In New York, a spokesman with the Iranian Mission to the United Nations would not comment on Mouloodzadeh’s case.

Now that the death sentence has been commuted, the case will be returned to the local court for retrial, Eghbali said, although the timetable is unclear. Eghbali said he had not spoken with Mouloodzadeh since the young man learned of his reprieve but planned to travel soon to the Kermanshah jail to discuss the case with his client.

Alizadeh, of the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission, said Mouloodzadeh was fortunate that journalist Khalatbari was able to write about his case.

“The only reason this young man managed to escape is that he had a relative in Germany that knew someone in Iran and that someone was a reporter and she was brave enough to make a fuss about it,” he said. “I’m sure there are many people like him who die because there was no one to hear their story.”

Many of those people, Alizadeh said, are gay, women, religious minorities or ethnic minorities. Mouloodzadeh, for instance, is Kurdish, the ethnic group that faces more discrimination than any other in Iran, said Alizadeh, himself a native of the country.

Khalatbari said she was “100 percent certain” that attention on the case swayed the ayatollah. “The judiciary and government is very sensitive to pressure, especially international pressure,” she said. “Sometimes, when a reporter finds out and starts making a fuss, they cancel the executions.”

Internal conflicts
The case also highlights the Islamic republic’s internal conflicts on how to deal with homosexuality.

Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad garnered headlines on a recent visit to the United States when he skirted a question on the execution of gays in Iran, declaring, "In Iran we don't have homosexuals like in your country." But this week, the Times of London quoted Mohsen Yahyavi, a member of the Iranian Parliament, as saying that gays should be executed or tortured.

Alizadeh says the government often tries to avoid appearing as if it is executing citizens just for being gay by adding other criminal charges, such as drug trafficking or rape.

Some observers remain convinced that such was the case with Mahmoud Asgari and Ayaz Marhoni, whose 2005 public hangings while they were still teenagers sparked worldwide outrage. While the pair was convicted of rape in addition to homosexual acts, some gay rights activists believe the youths were executed merely for engaging in consensual sex. Other rights groups have chosen to focus on the fact that the hangings violate international treaties prohibiting the execution of minors, which Iran has signed.

© 2007 MSNBC Interactive
URL: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21821342/page/3/

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saying hi....

2007-11-17T21:33:13Z

Hey everyone,

I am new to the group.
I love in the San Francisco Bay Area.
I love it here.

I love making new friends, hanging out and cooking.

:)

Cindy

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fresh from texas lol

2007-11-13T06:34:18Z

well im new here aswell i dont have a lot of peop[le to talk to that i fit in with down here its like i dont fit in with the lesbiens or the straits so i just dont really have alot of friends. i have been looking for somone around me to talk to or possibly start something with i havent been in a relationship in about a year now and its been hard but havent been with anyone period...........

my last relationship was with a girl and i was abused for about 3 years out of it but i finaly broke from it and just didnt have the coraged to find someone new till now. like sponge bob says "IM READY" lol.

anyways so im just here to see new faces and see what is going on in the world i have known nothing of for about 3 years. just call me bree and hope to talk to some of yall soon

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i just started a private tribe for members of babn

2007-11-13T05:31:25Z

if you're in babn and you want to join, please let me know.

thanks!

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New Girl

2007-11-04T07:52:44Z

Hey everyone, I just joined Tribe.net a few days ago and this is my first and only tribe (so far)... heregoes!

My name is Phillipa but most people call me Seedlet. As of this moment I live in Oklahoma, and I am bisexual (duh, that's why I'm here). I think I've been bisexual since about 8th grade, for that's when I started my first crush on a girl. She perplexed and interested me for months when I first met her, and after that I started to have sexual thoughts about her. I've been a very sexually curious person since I can remember and had toyed with the idea of being with a woman, but it all didn't really sink in until I met this girl. Since then I've sort of opened up and accepted it.

I am currently 18 and have only in the past month actually experienced any physical love with a member of the fairer sex. We are/were not in love and both of us had never really been with another woman before. 'Till then I had always worried that I was only curious about woman, but now I'm sure.

I am more attracted to men than women, and I currently live with a couple and am part of a D/s relationship under his control. I've been working on being more out and open about who I am since I've moved away from home, so I hope to find lots of new and interesting people to talk to here, and I hope I can contribute what I know and feel about the subject of bisexual love.

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My Men Will Do What You Tell Them!

2007-10-22T06:15:34Z

My Men Will Do What You Tell Them!

Good boys!

Male Sex Slaves For Women
http://tribes.tribe.net/sexslaves

The rules they've agreed to:

All males in this group must follow the sexual commands of the women in the group that are within a 50-mile driving distance. If she says, “come over to my place and take off your clothes”, you do so even if she wants you to get naked in front of a room full of people. If she says, “give me a massage and then lick my pussy”, you do so. If she rolls over and says, “now, lick my butt”, you do so. If she says, “pleasure my friend,” you pleasure her friend.

Within this group only the females are allowed to make any kind of sexual requests or offers. Male slaves must have a picture of yourself in your profile and it also must contain your location. These rules do not apply to the women in the group.

There is also a private "Male Sex Slaves for Women" tribe set up for women, and the males at this site are also their sex slaves.

This Tribe is strictly set up for free exchanges. Fem-doms offering services that are tied to “financial domination” will have their advertisements deleted. Likewise any other advertisements for pay such as for pay porn-sites, professional dating services, professional strippers (male or female), etc. will be deleted.

Nothing involving pain, poop, minors, or that is unsafe is required of our male sex slaves, but all safe and sane sexual commands from our women are mandatory for men to stay in the tribe. Have fun!

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New tribe - Pansexual

2007-10-15T22:29:29Z

A tribe with a focus on sexuality beyond the limits of gender and biological sex...

http://tribes.tribe.net/pansexual
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Pansexuality is sometimes described as the capacity to love a person romantically irrespective of gender identity or biological sex. Some pansexuals assert that gender and sex are meaningless to them. The word pansexual is derived from the Greek prefix pan-, meaning "all". This includes potential attraction to people who do not fit into the gender binary of male/female implied by bisexual attraction. Many people who identify as pansexual may associate with people of all sexual orientations, but are not necessarily interested in people of all sexes or genders.

Basically, an orientation that sees other people as individuals, rather than a product of their gender or biological sex.
Or just, open to all.

See also: Pangender, polysexuality, genderqueer, polyamorous

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new to the bay and the tribe

2007-10-07T07:59:30Z

hoping to meet up with like-minded folks for friendship, fucking and even good ol' fashioned dating. check out my profile and if you're at all interested write me back. take care

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New here

2007-09-27T05:01:10Z

hi everyone, this is my first post here.

i think i always knew i was bi. i used to mess around with girls when i was i grade school - during sleep overs we would play husband and wife and end up making love. jeez, i remember feeling this way as early as 2nd grade.

my first sexual experience as an adult was in my mid/late twenties, had a sexual relationship with a friend that ended up falling for me, but i didn't feel the same way. i've never actually had a "relationship" with a woman, the interactions i've had have mostly been sexually oriented - altho there is one woman i would have gotten more involved with if she hadn't drank so much booze. alcoholism is unappealing, in a male or female body.

over the years i've noticed that what i'm attracted to is the feminine, whether that package comes in a male or female form isn't all that important, although overall i am more into being with a male partner. i'm super attracted to both feminine men and women . i have a really strong masculine side, as well as a really strong feminine side. the feminine side tends to come out with men, while the more domineering masculine side comes out with women. it feels like an unnatural split that doesn't get addressed ........ and actually creates pain for me in relationships with straight partners.

i recently had a short lived thing with a guy that was bi, my first. i guess i've been with guys that played around but would never identify as bisexual. i am totally stunned at how he was able to meet both of my sides equally, matching my masculine with his feminine and vice versa. i don't know how it never really dawned on me that maybe thats part of the problem with why relationships don't last for me. i look for the external form of a woman to play with the masculine part of me, and a man to play with the feminine side of me. the thought that one person could meet both is so freaking liberating - it got me searching around on tribe for a place to talk about it.

do other people here have any of these similar gender identity issues that have either come to the surface or been resolved by being in relationship with bisexual partners?

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Bay Area Bisexual Network - new Tribe

2007-09-20T06:50:07Z

hi all,

we have a tribe now for babn; if you are in the bay area and want to participate in our REAL LIFE ACTIVITIES SUCH AS DINNERS AND BRUNCHES, please feel free to drop me a line and you'll get an invitation to the tribe.

it's private but NOT cuz we want it exclusive; we want it to be as inclusive as possible but we don't want any bi haters or wankers so we made it private so it couldn't be searchable by google. (everything not private on tribe shows up in google searches)

hope to see you at one of our events or on our tribe!

much love,

bay bi mod

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Wish me luck!

2007-09-18T21:13:10Z

I just started seeing a girl after my first and only GF and I broke up last year... Here goes nothing! :)

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Bi, Long haired, Rock n roller, (Phoenix, AZ.) Drug free

2007-09-05T08:13:57Z

It's a very difficult time here, trying to meet other long haired guys who aren't narrow minded and don't have a drug problem.
It sure would be nice to meet some cool guys with their act together, especially if they happen to have similar personality traits to me. I'm not trapped in one gender. I'm a guy when I'm a guy and when I'm not a guy, I can be very sweet and sensual. Everyone I associate with, has at some point informed me that I'm unique in my way; That I am fun to know and a pleasant person. I just wish I could meet others who are the same. Phoenix is a tough place to meet them. People here are close minded and alot are on drugs.

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Bi or just a pervert?

2007-08-30T16:09:59Z

Now I don't have any problem with bi peeps but how many of you just add it to your bag-o 'tricks for kicks'? Love is one thing and sex is another unless like me you think they are one and the same.

So come on love and sex or tricks for kicks, which school do you come from?

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a bisexual research survey.

2007-07-21T05:07:09Z

Here is a survey on bisexuality that I found.
If you take it tell me what you think of it.
I did not create it.
I was just given the link.

https://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=9ZqKCBgYghd1O%202HwjiTf6g_3d_3d

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G-Spot Orgasms and Their Effect on Menstration

2007-06-27T02:19:16Z

O.K. here's the scoop. My partner and I want to comment on this topic and also hopefully this will answer a question that we have. My partner usually has severe lower back pain (cramps) the day before and the first day of her sloughing phase. She has found that by having a Graffenberg Spot orgasm (our preference is through intercourse but I'm sure fingers or a toy is fine too) every day leading up to the day she starts sloughing allows her to totally avoid cramps. Our question is how does she avoid making her paradenium raw?. The tissue naturally thins at this time so even with lubricants (and we've tried a wide variety [check out priape.com if you're looking for good lubes]) there is some discomfort for her. So as it stands my partner can either have the cramps or have the raw soreness, is there some homeopathic remedy we've missed? Surely someone can help us with our query?

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Did you "choose" your sexuality?

2007-06-26T20:54:05Z

I am writing an essay on identity and would like other peoples perspectives on how much choice went into their sexual identity. I am bisexual and don't really feel that I ever really made a "choice" to be bi. I also didn't really have the common influences from society and religion telling me that I shouldn't be bi. So I don't think I really had a common experience and therefore do not feel that I have the authority to state my experience as a general trend.

What I would like is whether you feel that sexuality is a choice, why, what affected your "choice" and anything that you feel would contribute to the topic.

If you do not feel that you want your story on this thread but would still like to help, please feel free to send a private message to my account.

Thank you all!

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Sex Party Group Looking for HOT, Single MEN 21-40yrs...

2007-06-22T22:11:36Z

SOTC is a group of over 500 members, mostly couples and single women and are currently taking applications for SEXY single men to attend our parties. (Of course couples and single women are always encouraged to apply as well.) Bisexual a plus!

All single men have to be prescreened in person by the hosts - we are having a Meet & Greet next FRIDAY night in SF at an upscale strip club.

All guests have to be members (nominal fee to join) which includes invites to parties and social events, a forum to chat with other members, a newsletter, and a community of like-minded adults at your fingertips.

Looking for that single girl who is into play parties and swapping with others? We have made a few connections in the past for singles, we even have a pending marriage. You never know who you might meet a FWB, or even your future partner.

Apply online today and get an SOTC membership to get the invite to next Friday's Meet & Greet. You do not want to miss that meet as all of the men who have been prescreen will instantly be placed on ALL guest list for future parties!

If you are a couple or single woman - we are having a party this SAT, become a member and get your invite ASAP.

See site for details... www.SOTCparty.com

~Jodie~
SOTC Hostess

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Looking for Super Hot Bisexual/Lesbian Women

2007-06-20T23:29:50Z

Move over L-Word and make room for a “real” TV Show about Lesbians…

Every hot Lesbian is dying to meet the girl of her dreams, right?

Well, girls, here’s your chance! One of the hottest Maxim women is looking for love, in lots of girly places! This is the girl of your dreams who works hard, and looks good doing it…A superstar with a hot music career, a fashion line, and her own Myspace throne, this girl like’s it crazy!

Do you have what it takes? Any woman in her right mind would give it a chance, right? Casting now for a high profile fun TV network, this reality show will showcase 20 of the most loveable Lesbians we can find to live with our superstar hottie!

She’s in charge of choosing her favorite lucky woman and who knows, maybe this fairytale ends in true love………

Any hot girl between the ages of 21-27 is invited to send us your picture, a brief description of yourself, and tell us why she will fall madly in love with you. This is a super fun, “Reality Experience” in a hot mansion with lots of other beautiful women.

Prepare to move-in, but don’t bring an entourage…girls in little towns, pack your bags and come have fun with a big city girl! We are trying to find her the best of the best from all over the nation, and who knows, you might make her dreams come true!

Please tell me you have what it takes, and love gorgeous women because we want to help you fall in love with one of the best out there!

Email us now, so that we can schedule an interview. People living outside major US cities, please send a short 3 -5 minute video or contact us for the closest major casting city.

Be a part of history in the first Reality House TV show for Lesbians… 20 hot women race to the finish line for the heart of a superstar…….. Don’t miss-out on this amazing experience!

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Queer Women's Camp at Burning Man this year: Camp Beaverton for Wayward Girls...

2007-06-18T17:53:59Z

Hey, everyone!

Just wanted to post a "heads up" regarding Burning Man this year and a queer women's camp that is birthing itself into existence: "Camp Beaverton, Camp for Wayward Girls"...

We've got our second organizational call June 21st. Join us, why don'cha! I've also included a cut and paste announcement you can FWD to your queer gal pals who might want to be on the call, too, and/or know of Beaverton's existence. Please post, FWD, blab, text, and spread the word!

If you want to learn more about what we're up to, go to tribes.tribe.net/campbeaverton

Queerly yours,
REiD

Here's the cut and paste....

Wayward Women Campers of Black Rock City!

Going to the Burning Man Arts Festival this year? Not going, but want to help create a queer women's oasis on the playa?

Please join us for our second "Camp Beaverton, Camp for Wayward Girls" organizational call and have a say and help us organize this extraordinary concept...

And please tell all your queer gal pals and help us raise awareness. Whether you will be camping with us or just want to lend your creative wit and wisdom, dial up and participate. : )

Thursday, June 21, 2007
Start Time: 9:00 PM East Coast Time/6:00 PM West Coast Time
End Time: Should last about an hour
Dial-in Number: 1-712-945-0210 (Iowa)
Participant Access Code: 232837 (then hit the pound # key)

Please RSVP if you think you'll be joining us so we know how many lines to reserve for the call!

Questions? Email or call - reid@cuddleparty.com or 917.207.4554
And if you want to learn more about what we're up to, go to tribes.tribe.net/campbeaverton

Can't wait!

Tail-smacking goodness,
Your Busy Beaverton Camp Counselors

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looking in ashville hickory area

2007-06-05T12:25:11Z

any bi guys in these areas looking for friends just moved up from fla ben

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6/01 Primal "Pulse" bi/queer erotic party, in SF

2007-05-31T08:03:59Z

Reminder - It's this Friday.

This is a mixed energy event. Wide range of ages (18+) and queerness (bi, butch, femme, trans, gender queer, leather, etc). A unique event, open to any non-mainstream (hetero-normative) sexuality. We also transform the venue.

- -
Primal "Pulse"

A Private, Queer Erotic Party
Hosted by Iain & Angela of EduKink

Friday, June 1, 2007, 8 pm – 1 am
SF Citadel, 1277 Mission Street, at Ninth Street
$20 per person

The Primal parties are alternative sexuality parties for queer and queer-friendly adults, celebrating all genders, orientations, and preferences.

You must be on the invitation list to attend. Anyone 18 or older with a positive, personal interest in celebrating sexuality in all its flavors, colors, shapes, and expressions, may apply at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EduKink-Erotic-Events

Strict Dress code. Basics:
- Ordinary street clothes not permitted.
- Red sexy attire admired, but not required.
- Trans folk may dress as they please.

Featuring live music by Cuir Bleu
(CuirBleu.com)

Feel the pulse … .. low beat of the drum … .. feel it throbbing in your veins … .. the rhythm of sex … ..
… .. the pulse … .. … .. pulse … .. … .. pulse … .. … .. Feel it.

For more information, see http://EduKink.org/Primal

Do not forward this message to other lists without permission.

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Videos

2007-05-18T21:35:50Z

For the men: http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x1ymdi_pub-aides-sugar-baby-love

For the women: http://shedwa.blogspot.com/2007/05/silverjet-offers-restrooms-for-lesbian.html

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Dating or being single? Be positive and you will win your love!

2007-05-18T01:38:27Z

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describe your first time having sex knowing you were bi

2007-05-16T07:13:28Z

did you go for the other gender or for the same as you? did you believe in only 2 genders or is it more fluid for you? were you with one or more partners?

was it night or day? what were the sounds, the tastes, the smells? what were your fears that kept you timid or fantasies that made you bold?

did you explain yourself? or were no words needed? were you a youth or mature?

tell us!

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article: bi and invisible, from Advocate magazine.

2007-05-14T21:36:11Z

As much as I loathe Advocate magazine and I don't prescribe to all of the politics and everything from gay "leaders" I do think that this is a good article and I wish that Advocate magazine would run more articles on bisexuality or bi issues that we face.
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http://advocate.com/currentstory1_w.asp?id=22148

Bi and invisible

By Kathryn Grannis

From The Advocate November 22, 2005

Bi and invisible

Bisexuals experience the world differently than people who are attracted exclusively to one sex or the other. It is difficult for those who are not bisexual to understand. I never know before it happens whether the next person I fall in love with will be a man, a woman, or someone in between. It’s not something I can control any more than a gay or straight person can choose whom he or she loves.

My first heartachy crush was on another girl in my junior high school gym class. A few months later I had a similarly intense crush on a boy. Later that year, when we had what passed for a sex education class in the 1960s, I wondered why the teacher mentioned only attraction to the opposite sex. But I knew better than to ask.

Several years later I learned the words heterosexual and homosexual. I knew immediately that I was not heterosexual. I wondered if I might be homosexual, but I didn’t see how that could be, since I liked boys too. In college I felt pressured to identify as either straight or lesbian. My straight friends told me I should grow up and settle down. My gay friends told me I should deal with my internalized homophobia and come out. No one said it was cool that I liked both boys and girls, not even the therapist I consulted after graduation.

Three decades have passed, and at age 54, I’m still not able to choose one sex over the other. This doesn’t mean I am immature or homophobic; it just means that my body works differently. When I am with a man it doesn’t mean that I’ve become heterosexual and lost interest in women. I am happiest when I have both same-sex and opposite-sex energy in my life in some way. A disastrous experiment in the 1970s convinced me that I can’t have simultaneous relationships with a man and a woman. But when I am with a woman I fantasize about having sex with a man, and when I am with a man I fantasize about women; this is my body’s way of creating balance.

I have heard both gays and straights say that bisexuals can exercise heterosexual privilege and live a straight life, enjoying all the rights that gays don’t have. But I can’t do that without censoring a large portion of who I am. The same is true of trying to pass as a lesbian. When I was younger I hid my lesbian books and videos whenever my parents came to visit. How many straight women have had to do that? I now have naked screen captures of Ewan McGregor bookmarked on my computer. How many lesbians can say the same?

Gays and lesbians know how disheartening it can be when they don’t see themselves represented in the predominantly straight culture around them. Understanding my own sexuality has been a long, tortured process, in large part because true bisexuality is invisible in both gay and straight culture. It’s hard to find accurate information and positive role models. Even today, bisexual characters in films are routinely portrayed as duplicitous and unreliable. We are decades away from the limited and tentative acceptance that gays and lesbians have achieved. If we want that to change, we have to become more vocal and more visible.

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Has anyone else...

2007-05-13T06:40:20Z

Has anyone else noticed themselves being less physically affectionate to their same-sex friends since noticing that you are bi? I am always worried that what I do is going to be taken as being "inappropriate" that I think I am starting to come off as a bit aloof or stand-offish. Anyone else?

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Bi babies born in '75?

2007-05-12T04:10:02Z

I just read that Sara Gilbert, Drew Barrymore, and Angelina Jolie were all born in my year, '75, and we all love women (Sara being gay, the other 2 bi). Coincidence? Sara and Drew are also Aquarian like me. Yea for "out" actresses who show the world we're normal!

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Bisexuals discriminated against in SF/Bay area

2007-05-06T23:43:57Z

After running what appeared to be an amusing looking poll on the ADYKE site
(a list for self identified Lesbians over 40)it seems the owner Michelle
Brevard has appointed herself to be the Lesbian Police. Basically, she
unequivocally decided that the few women who polled in as bi-sexual could
NOT be Lesbians so they were promptly removed from the list with no warning
or explanation. Even when one protested that she was most definately a
Lesbian, there was no turning back. "You said it therefore you are."

Posted by: "adyke@yahoogroups.com" adyke@yahoogroups.com
Mon Mar 19, 2007 8:13 pm (PST)
Enter your vote today! A new poll has been created for the adyke group:

What is your sexual orientation?

o Lesbian
o Bisexual
o Not sure
o Ambidextrous
o Ask me next week
===========================
Here is some commentary that followed on the BASAPPHO list.

Ellen@aol. wrote:
I was subjected to several phone calls and an inquisition about my
fsexuality from a-dyke due to some stupid rumor that I had a husband. I
self identified as a lesbian to sign up. Not only have I been a dyke
since the age of 19, I have dedicated alot of my life to activism and
advocacy to improve safety in the schools for glbt students, parents,
children of lgbt parents and staff. It felt insulting, intrusive and
invasive to me to be questioned about this. It's going too far.

Commentary by Lyn:
the poll asks "sexual orientation"
what if you said lesbian is your sexual *preference*,
although technically your sexual orientation is
bisexual. we have all been hearing for years that
virtually everyone is a bisexual somewhere on the bell
curve of preference. if you dont act on it, then what
does that make you? if you have an experience with a
man once a decade, but only fall in love with women,
what does that make you?

Hey Adyke: Dont Ask, Dont tell !
=================================
-----Original Message-----
Sent: Friday, April 06, 2007 7:39 PM
To: Karen;
Subject: Re: Why I've been banned from ADYKE

karen,
after looking at the sexual orientationpoll of adyke
website, it says you may change your answer until the
poll closes, and it has no closing date. if this is a
trick of hers to screen out non-lesbians from
membership, it is certainly odd. it's odd any way
youlook at it, since the group info states it is for
lesbians, so why even have such a poll?? a member's
lesbianism is assumed (and self-assigned.)
if someone were really hiding out on our list, they
would carefully avoid the poll, i'm sure. only the
innocent questioners among us would fall into the
trap, if tha'ts what it is. in fact, i looked at that
poll before, but i didnt even think of its weird
inconsisitency myself.
i just thought, i dont answer really personal stuff
online, and moved on. i mean, i guess i thought it
meant, "being that you are a lesbian, in which
directions do you lean the most?" It appeared to be
allowing fluidity--or as you called it, diversity. it
didnt occur to me to be defensive or suspicious of it.
==================================
2 additional technicalities that came to mind:
i am pretty shocked that they can link the poll
responses to the pollee. i would have assumed it was
anonymous within adkye.

it is not fair that those of us who did not take the
poll are "safe."
no one has contacted me to require that i answer those
questions.
otherwise, i might be banned too, who knows?????
there should be a fair warning that your answers can
be used against you. There may well be a serious
legal issue here, like constitutionsl right to free
speech, or discrimination.
do we have any idea yet how many other women have met
your same fate?

----- Original Message -----
From: Kiriyo Spooner <mailto:kiriyo@sbcglobal.net
To: ; ba-sappho@groups.queernet.org <mailto:ba-sappho@groups.queernet.org
Sent: Monday, April 09, 2007 11:52 AM
Subject: Re: (no subject)

Having been a long-time supporter of lesbian-only space, I am horrified and
appalled by adyke using a member's poll answer in order to expell them from
the group. This smacks of Big Brother at its worst.

If you want to say this is lesbian-only space and from now on we don't want
anyone who identifies as bi-sexual to be a part of the group, then SAY IT,
be honest about it, and ask people to abide by it. Don't add it as a P.S.
somewhere. Don't use someone's answer in a poll to ban them without a word
of explanation to them as to why. That is TOTALLY different from our
herstoric efforts to fight for wimmin-only and lesbian-only space.
- Kiriyo

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top 10 bi movies.

2007-05-06T01:32:43Z

Here's a list of top 10 bisexual movies compiled by OutFilms.com

http://www.outfilms.com/top10bisexual.cfm

From the site: Bisexuals get no respect. Straight people wonder why they don't just go straight, and gay people wonder why they are pretending to be half and half. And despite the potential for drama, Hollywood doesn't do much with this genre.

10.water drops on burning rocks
9.I will survive
8.Borstal boy
7.sunday bloody sunday
6.midnight cowboy
5.Kinsey
4.Cabaret
3.My own Private Idaho
2.Y Tu Mama Tambien
1.Midnight Express

There's a film summary for each movie on the site.

How do you feel about this list? What should be added/taken off? What's on your top 10 list for bi films or movies that depict/talk about it?

I'm kinda surprised that the movie about Frida Kahlo called Frida isn't on there and neither are Kevin Smiths' Chasing Amy, Brokeback Mountain, or the film adaptation of D.H. Lawrence's novel 'Women in Love'. I've never seen it but I've been told that the BBC adaptation of 'Portrait of a Marriage' is a good representation too but that the US version has sex scenes censored out while the UK version doesn't.

I put this on other bi related tribes only because everyone goes to different ones.

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new report on bisexual health.

2007-05-06T01:19:00Z

Here's a report on bisexuality and bisexual health: http://www.thetaskforce.org/press/releases/prBI_031407

you can even download the report and read it at your own leisure (in PDF format): http://www.thetaskforce.org/reports_and_research/bisexual_health

The report goes on to say how bisexuals are largely ignored or even erased by both homosexuals and heterosexuals and the media. It also states that many people are afraid to come out as bi to their doctors since many doctors will give bisexuals incomplete or wrong information about safer sex and HIV/STD prevention.

Anyway if you check out the report and read it tell me what you think of it.

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Heteroromantic males are biSEXual!

2007-04-24T08:47:18Z

Dear Readers:

Just wanted to share the following with you.

What most of us call “sexual” orientation is really romantic orientation. This means that a heteroromantic male (straight in the romantic sense) can be biSEXual (bi in the purely sexual sense). Three tiers of orientation exist.

1) Sexual Tastes: Which sex or sexes you're SEXually attracted to

2) Romantic Orientation: Which sex or sexes you're ROMANTICALLY attracted to

3) Platonic Preference: Which sex or sexes you're PLATONICALLY drawn to

Most heteroromantic men are drawn to homoplatonic bonds with other males (e.g., “male bonding”). It is homophobia (fear of homosexuality) that keeps their innate biSEXuality from being expressed here. Still, about 70% of the population is heteroromantic, biSEXual, and homoplatonic. In this sense, bisexuality simply means SEXUAL attraction and/or activities with members of both sexes. (I’m using the term both because 95% of people are anatomically male or female and not transgendered.)

Bisexuality can be practiced by heteroromantic people (straight in the romantic sense). Because men easily divorce sex from romance, they are more likely to have sex in and out of a heteroromantic context—if they get over their homophobia. Because females tend to require romance for sex (and because most people are heteroromantic), most heteroromantic women will remain heteroSEXual, as well. Thus, female bisexuality is about 1/3 as common as male bisexuality. It is only our society that hides this fact because it is obsessed with female bisexuality. Female bisexuality, after all, is a fantasy of straight men and doesn’t disrupt the heterosexual status quo. This is because female bisexuality is seen as “women just fooling around.” It is male bisexuality that is the real threat, which is why it must be pushed under the rug. But looking at human history, one sees that male bisexuality is more common than female bisexuality. Our society is the anomaly in the history of human civilizations.

Homophobia keeps male bisexuality hidden—and the fact that in our society, romance is the only context for legitimate sex. Even homoplatonic love makes gay sex no-no. People learn the straight/gay binary at an early age, which leaves little room for a bi identity. Teenagehood is the time when the straight/gay divide is enforced the most brutally. Teens, the so-called rebels of society, are told that they only have a 3% chance of ending up gay—and even less of a chance of ending up bi. Print, radio, TV, parents, peers, teachers, and religion pressure teens and young adults into choosing the default identity (and behavior) of straight. The latest manifestation of this indoctrination is teens saying, “That is so gay”—referring to everything they see as bad (e.g., a boring movie). This shows that straight identity, behavior, and even feelings are constructed, enforced, and chosen (consciously and unconsciously) and malleable to peer pressure and to social upbringing—just like everything else. It is the unconsciousness of this socialization process (although much of it is conscious, too) that makes people say that they didn't choose their orientation.

When men reach adulthood, they find that most women refuse to date openly bi men. This forces heteroromantic men (and biromantic men) to hide their bisexuality (e.g., the downlow phenomenon). Articles then “prove” that male bisexuality is a “myth.” Seldom do articles look at the social context that drives male bisexuality underground. Even less mentioned is the total lack of bi community—no bi cafes, no bi workout clubs, no bi sports teams, no bi music, no bi cable networks, no bi fraternities and sororities, etc. In the United States, a country of 280 million people, there isn’t a single bi bar—not even in Boston, the “bi capital” of America. Worse, nobody notices. As the saying goes, bisexuality is everywhere, yet invisible as air.

Heteroromantic people, however, have a biSEXual potential, which means that bisexuality can happen with opposite-sex romantic partners and with same-sex friends (homosocial bonds). It is the one-man/one woman paradigm (e.g., monogamy) that keeps people from openly admitting their bisexuality. Men, in particular, feel that if they enjoy gay sex, they must be turning “gay.” But one can be straight in the romantic sense and bi in the purely sexual sense. If we teased apart sexual tastes from romantic orientation from platonic preference (instead of lumping the three together as “sexual” orientation), then “sexual” politics would be romantic politics in the future. In such a world, there would be heteroromantic/biSEXual people, homoromantic/biSEXual people, homoromantic/homosexual people, biromantic/bisexual people, etc. For more info, go to www.threecirclegraph.com. I also have an article at http://www.cleansheets.com/coversto..._01.04.06.shtml

Thanks for reading!

TG

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How to get hit on?

2007-04-06T22:32:05Z

Either guys never express an interest, or I'm too clueless to notice.... what should I do?

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boxers or briefs?

2007-04-06T04:23:42Z

hey guys -----what is your preference wearing or viewing , boxers or briefs?????speedos or baggy swimwear???????Women whats your opinion????? Does it have to do with a males sexual preference as far as positioning in sexual encounters ex. being a top or bottom???????My ex. used to buy me sexy / brief briefs----did this suggest she liked my body or did she view me as less masculine ???????

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Sexy nudist personals waiting for you

2007-04-01T04:34:26Z

Looking Nudist friends and adult soul mates to share the clothes free life style ?

This is the Best and Largest Personals network for Nudist&Naturist singles !

Join for free:

http://www.freewebs.com/nudistfriend/nudistcenter.htm

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New England?

2007-03-29T06:04:08Z

cool tribe. anyone from the northeast?

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Help with a College Bio project in the San Francisco Bay area!

2007-03-26T23:17:00Z

A friend of mine is doing this project and asked for me to post:

The purpose of this experiment is to examine the correlation between a woman’s ovulation period and headaches, sleeplessness and/or sexual activity. Approximately 100 volunteers are needed between now and April 12, 2007 for this experiment in order to gather sufficient data.

I have broadened my search for volunteers and no longer require that volunteers be in a monogamous relationship, nor is it important as to whether or not the volunteers are lesbian or straight. Additionally, individuals that are currently taking birth control pills are also welcome to volunteer. The only factors that will disqualify volunteers are if she/he are mentally unstable (e.g. diagnosed schizophrenic, bipolar, etc.), are unable to commit to logging the symptoms that are under investigation for the next few weeks, and/or are under 18 years of age.

So, if you want to take part in an interesting experiment and want to help out a college student with her project, please contact me at jai.david@gmail.com .

If you join the study, there is also an incentive to helping me find additional volunteers. The award is included in the verbiage below, as well as additional information.

I hope to hear from you soon!!

Cheers,
Jai David
jai.david@gmail.com

P.S. Please feel free post this ad in your blogs and/or bulletins (you MySpacers!) and/or forward to friends and family members.

Procedures

After signing the “Consent to Act as a Human Research Subject Form”, each person will be given a questionnaire to determine whether or not she/he qualifies for this experiment. Once the decision has been made, and the candidates have been chosen, each woman will be given weekly calendars. The calendars are to be used to log the first day of each woman’s most recent period. They will also be asked to log, if it occurs, any noticeable headaches, sleeplessness, sexual activity and/or sexual arousal. The volunteers are asked to be diligent in terms of logging the mentioned observations for appropriate analysis.

Each individual will be asked to keep the calendars from their partners to avoid influence amongst each other. Additionally, each individual will be assigned a Subject Number that should not be revealed to their partner. The purpose of the subject number is to maintain confidentiality, even between partners. All information shared regarding this study will be as aggregate data or provided without unique identifiers.

There shall be no anticipated risks involved, should you decide to volunteer. If you decide to seek additional volunteers for this experiment, you will be awarded a dollar amount for every 10, 20, and 30+ individuals that return a “Consent to Act as a Human Research Subject Form” and qualify to be subjects for this survey. The amounts are $5, $10, and $20, respectively.

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How do I deal with my shyness and also craving for a woman as a lover?

2007-03-25T21:06:21Z

I see sexy women and men all the time. People wear less clothing when it's warm, as it is in the SF Bay Area these days. How do I cope with my shyness? I wolf-whistle women in tank tops and mini-skirts as well as men without shirts, or guys with cute butts and bulging trousers. Shameless vixen, me! Tsk, tsk. I wonder, does anybody actually feel offended? I'd love to cause a few penises to harden, some pussies to get all wet and creamy. Mmmmm!!! I crave a woman to make love with. Soft tits against mine, a nice butt to spank, silky hair and soft lips. Of course, the heart of gold behind that sexy chest is what really matters! I have a boyfriend who's a real sweetie, and I love making love with him too, but I still crave a woman...,.
Making love is wonderful.

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New Group: Bisexual Women's Network

2007-03-15T00:14:27Z

The Bisexual Women's Network (BWN) is dedicated to support and resources for Bisexual and Bi-Curious women.

We are an open-minded, free spirited, s.e.x-positive group for bisexual women who are married, in a long term relationship, or single, who seek to make new connections and network with other strong, intelligent, sexy, bisexual women in the SF Bay Area.

We hope this will be a drama-free environment where we can plan social events, swap stories and information, support and share our lives with each other.

Please feel free to invite your Bisexual girl friends, pass the word along to those other local positive women in your life looking to make great connections, friends, and gain the much needed support from our community.

Here is the link:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BisexualWomensNetwork/

~Jodie~

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sweet video share

2007-03-14T15:38:30Z

found this on tribe of course :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ui7wlZmfcP4

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Research on Bisexualty and Well-Being

2007-03-13T04:43:37Z

Research on Bisexuality and Well-Being

Are you a bisexual female and at least 18 years old?

- You are invited to participate in an anonymous on line survey concerning sexual experience and feelings. This research is being conducted by a graduate student at the California School of Professional Psychology/Alliant International University.

- Participation will take approximately 60 to 70 minutes

- All Participants will be entered in a lottery for a chance to win one of two
raffle prizes for $100

- If you are interested, go to
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=165663204675

- For more information or questions email:
bisexualityresearch@yahoo.com

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Good Bisexual movie

2007-03-12T16:54:50Z

I just saw the first and perhaps only Russian film with a gay/bisexual theme called "You I love." I got it on netflix. Its really good. Very sweet. All interesting characters and issues around the European/Asian split in that country.

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Note: Please do not respond to troll threads

2007-03-10T19:54:08Z

Under certain circumstances I must delete entire threads. I hate doing this because I also delete your comments as well. So please save your great posts for a great thread.

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hi am new

2007-03-08T07:15:50Z

the tribe has been a welcoming place for me as i come out as bi.

i feel lucky to love humans period. all kinds, all ages, all colors, all sizes and as many genders as one can imagine.

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Its been so long... How do I...

2007-03-05T22:45:14Z

The last time I had a steady relationship was over a decade ago. In the meantime I have had a few sexual partners, but most of those relationships ended badly or abruptly as they were predominantly people from my work-life. Ever since implementing my own rule of not 'fishing off the company pier', I've had a rather frustrating time trying to figure out how to meet people that I might actually form a friendship/relationship with.
My problem is further compounded by the fact that I'm REALLY shy until I get to know someone, and cannot stand the bar scene. I would prefer to meet people that want to fuck my mind as well as my body, but for the life of me I can't figure out where to go or how to make that first step. I am in the process of returning to school to finish my degree, but due to my shyness, think that might not be the best place for my re-emergence into the 'scene.'
I would appreciate any constructive comments people are willing to offer.

Love,
Jonathan

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Bi Men, Tops or Bottoms?

2007-03-03T23:32:47Z

I suppose most gay men are bottoms, but it seems that this is the case with bi men as well. Seems they get out their top stuff with women and then swing under with guys.

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anyone from indiana?

2007-02-25T22:44:28Z

wanting to know if anyone in here is from indiana who is wanting to chat, just curious.

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more or less 'straight' guys who like to suck the occasional cock.

2007-02-23T20:14:40Z

Hey,
I've enjoyed giving blowjobs for a while. It started when I was young, because I could actuallh do it to myself then. Since, I've found that I don't like just doing it one on one. that is, I can only do it when there is a girl in the threesome (or two in the foursome) to coach me along. that's when I like it best--having her 'make' me do it. The best time I've ever had was when she made me blow her boyfriend exactly how she specified as she strapped on her harness and 8 incher, slowly but surely pushing it into me, speeding up gradually until she was fucking me really hard and fast. I wasn't even aloud to moan, she said. And she would take it out until I swallowed her boyfriend's cum. It's crazy, but without even touching my cock, I came really hard several times, the best of which being the last--as her boyfriend filled my mouth. She made me swallow all of it. and just when I though it was over, she sped back up, fast and hard, till she was able to cum. It hurt to walk for a while.
It's only happend once, but it was the hottest thing I'ver ever had. I only wish I could do it again. Where might I look for such a thing? Any leads are greatly appreciated. if there are any interested couples, I'd like to try it out again. I'm clean and discreet and attractive. we could email more off list.

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Why do you think of yourself as Bi?

2007-02-20T21:05:57Z

If you had asked me two years ago I would have said I was straight and saw feminine beauty in the same way I see flowers and think they are beautiful. If you had asked one year ago I would have said that I was straight but could see what others saw in girls... (and had a few questions when I was really truthful about it.) Over the last year I have come to identify as bi and spent about 6 months dating a girl and am I comfortable with this identity. I see sexuality as fluid and am merely curious where I will be in the future.

So, the question stands. Why do you think of yourself as Bi?

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